"Under the law of the Lord, a marriage, like a human life, is a precious, living thing. If our bodies are sick, we seek to heal them. We do not give up. While there is any prospect of life, we seek healing again and again. The same should be true of our marriages, and if we seek Him, the Lord will help us and heal us." Dallin H. Oaks, "Divorce" (Oct 2007).
Today I am extremely grateful to be married to someone who believes and lives this quote.
I learned a means of seeking the Lord and applying this quote in my marriage recently. The other day, I overheard a friend guide her four-year-old through apologizing to my son. It went something like this:
"I'm sorry for what?"
"I'm sorry for taking your truck."
"Will you forgive me?"
"Yes!" from Gideon.
"What can I do to make it better?"
This question took my son off guard and softened his little heart as he had to think for a minute what would supply adequate restitution.
I instantly loved this little apology recipe, believing it to be perfectly doctrinally accurate, and asked if I could borrow it. My friend then opened up about how incorporating the above had improved her marriage. I was struck.
Turns out, it is scalable for big boys and girls, too. It is a simple, effective recipe for apologizing in marriage, and can turn a trite phrase into a powerful tool for good.
More, repenting and forgiving in this simple way is a powerful method whereby we invite the Savior into our marriages and allows Him to heal and seal us His - it is His means of life support for any trouble, large or small. I testify that it really is that simple and and that beautiful, and challenge any reading this to try this simple recipe today and see what comes!